Tag: my life

  • An October Wedding

    An October Wedding

    Today my cousin Robby married his wonderful now wife Sharon. It was a beautiful and meaningful ceremony officiated by Sharon’s sister Colleen. Robby and Sharon have bonded over there mutual love of certain nerdy/dorky topics, so the wedding was full of Harry Potter (Robby proposed to Sharon at Hogwarts in Universal Studios), Jurassic Park, Star Wars and other fun pop culture elements. Sharon wore a beautiful and simple white dress that was made for her, and a pair of white Converse Chuck Taylor’s. I am so happy for my cousin and I wish the two of them happiness and joy. Congrats you two!!

  • Have the Lambs Stopped Screaming?

    Have the Lambs Stopped Screaming?

    That title is loosely related to what I wanted to talk about today which is that it is finally chilly enough to wear the amazing Death’s Head Moth Cape that I bought from a local seamstress and fiber artist Rachel Walker.

    In April at the Ashville Viking Festival my mom came up to me a told me she can’t believe I am not feeaking out about the death head’s moth cloak in that booth. I hadn’t even seen it. We went in and I made some kind of insane high pitched squee noise and asked if I could take it off to look at it. Rachel graciously allowed me to do so, and it was such a gorgeous work of art I knew I would have to have it.

    I asked how much it was, and it was a bit above my ability to pay immediately ($300) so I asked if she would consider accepting payments. I could give $100 immediately and pay monthly through paypal for the rest. She agreed and I have never been so excited in my life. She still had some sewing she needed to do on the piece including adding me big pockets inside.

    I actually picked it up at the Ohio Renaissance Festival the second weekend, but it has been so hot I have not gotten to wear it yet. I finally got to wear it this weekend and it is currently one of my favorite things.

    Cape Porn!!

  • Do You Even Witch?

    Do You Even Witch?

    I have been a practicing witch since I was about 16 years old. It started for me, as it did for many people my age, with the movie The Craft. I was a sophomore the movie came out and I went with a group of friends to see it. I immediately began wearing short pleated skirts and button down white shirts. And from the Waldenbooks in the mall I bought two books one day that fall: The Witches Almanac and True Magick by Amber K. I snuck them into my house like they were porn rather than books, and began my secret education.

    True Magick by Amber K is not a bad book, in fact much of it is great in regards to Wiccanism, but it also suggested that you not wear makeup, wear only natural fabrics (I was super into vintage clothes and basically lived in polyester) and that if you eat meat you cannot be a Wiccan because you have no empathy for other creatures. I was very into the idea of The Goddess and The God, and polytheism, and spell work, and many more parts of Wiccanism, but I also loved makeup and polyester so maybe it was just not for me. This did not stop me from stupidly attempting a love spell however…but that is another story.

    Then I found out a local metaphysical shop was going to be hosting a Wicca 101 class. I asked my mom, and she said that she would give her permission for me to take the class since I was under 18. The class was taught by a lovely, and very pregnant, woman named Heather. She gave a lot of the basic information on creating a magickal name, calling the quarters, creating holy water, and so much more. I attended all of the classes except the last one, because it was a ritual and I was too nervous to be involved.

    After the class though, I began to read, study, and actually began to build a practice. I set up an altar (my mom nicknamed it Waltar and it stuck and my sacred space remains Waltar to this day.), I was gifted and began reading Tarot, and though it was on and off at the time I was becoming a Witch.

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    When I was 18 I took that Wicca 101 class again, and this time it did not feel so overwhelming. I felt like I belonged there as much as anyone else did. I was beginning to see myself as a Witch. I was still mostly using Wiccan guidelines, but I had begun reading about other types of Witches and what the difference between a Wiccan and a Witch is. I bought my first piece of witchy jewelry, a gorgeous silver pentacle ring that has been lost over the years. I finished the class this time, which ended with a beltane ceremony including maypole dancing. It was lovely and I knew I had found a place.

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    Over the years my craft has moved and morphed, I now consider myself an eclectic cottage art witch. I tend to make magic with whatever is on hand, rather than requiring special tools. I have been dedicated to Odin the All-Father for almost 7 years after years of him trying to get my attention. I work with a wide pantheon that includes traditional and pop pantheon figures. I firmly believe that magic works best when it reflects you, so if that means that the person you petition for beauty is Aphrodite or Rupaul both are valid.

    Are you looking for some witchy inspiration? I am a patron for several lovely magical ladies on Patreon:

    Molly Roberts    Youtube    Patreon

    Joanna DeVoe    Podcast     Youtube     Patreon

    Paige – The Fat Feminist Witch   Podcast    Patreon

    Cris Ashburn   Youtube    Patreon

    These women are inspiring, knowledgeable, fun, and all around gorgeous human beings. Check them out and be in awe and inspired! I cannot recommend them more.

     

  • Anniversary Thoughts – Seven Year Itch?

    Anniversary Thoughts – Seven Year Itch?

    Today is the seventh anniversary of the day I married the best man I have ever met. Seth and I have gone on a great many adventures together in our seven years of marriage (and five years of dating before that) and we will be on many, many more. I cannot imagine my life without him in it. I am beyond blessed and so grateful to have him in my life. Thank you, Seth, for teaching me, making me laugh, loving me so much and for catching me when I fall. My heart is yours for always.

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    Our wedding was a supremely personalized and hand made event and I loved every piece of it. My mother was our officiant and made my jacket, the vests for the guys and the skirt for my niece. Our friend Cliff made the steps leading to the front of the stage and our “cake topper” which was a diorama of Seth and I in our wedding clothes fighting zombies encased in a lovely dragon skin box, with lights. My sister-in-law baked all of our cupcakes and helped with general wedding crafting. My mother-in-law helped us with crafting. My sister helped us with crafting. I made the bouquets and the boutonnieres, designed the programs, etc. Seth made our hand-fasting cord, flowers for the bouquets and our rings out of chain maille plus helping with everything else. Seth and I wrote the ceremony and our vows. It takes an army to create a wedding as beautiful as ours, and we were blessed to have some of the best people involved.

    Photos are all by Capture Life Photography

  • The Ghost of Halloween Past…

    The Ghost of Halloween Past…

    So, what are your favorite costumes? I was thinking about what I might want to do this year. In the past little bit I have been A Reveur, a black widow spider, so many witches (in a pinch I will default to witch.), Daria, a traveler, steampunk something, a flapper, sexy snow white, a pageant kid/ toddler in a tiara, and probably more but I am blanking. More than likely this year I will witch again, but I might be inspired.

    I was considering going as a member of one of the random gangs from The Warriors. I especially love the ones wearing overalls and roller skates. Very tempting!

    What are your favorite costumes? Do you have a default costume just in case? Are you planning to dress up this year?

  • I Ain’t Afraid of No Ghosts…

    The paranormal has always held a fascination for me. I was always the weird girl who would check out books on hauntings, cryptozoology, witches, and anything else a curious seven year old could get her hands on. I already believed in ghosts because I had lived in a haunted house.

    At one point we, my mother and I, lived with my Grandparents in a nice 50s style ranch home in Heath, Ohio. It was a typical three bedroom one bath house with basement rec room. There were a couple of things that happened in that house. Sometimes late at night a man made of static would come out of my closet and walk toward me across the room. I would cover my face with my blanket, but then I could still feel him staring with his face inches from my covered face. That seriously creeped me out, and it should be said that I was afraid of the dark so there was always a nightlight on in my room, so all of this happened by soft light and not in the dark.

    The other thing that happened in that house was that sometimes I would hear an adult (my mother or a grandparent) calling for me, but when I went to them they would say they hadn’t called. Then I knew that my friends were calling me from the basement. The people in the basement were white and they would peek around the corner when someone was coming to see if it was me. They were smaller than the static person, but still had no real features just a basic human form in white. They would play with me in the basement. I remember that, but I cannot remember what I played with them.

    So…by the time seven year old me was checking out all the paranormal books from the school library I was pretty old hat with ghosts.

    Many years later when talking about that house my mom revealed to me that the couple who had lived in the house before us the husband had been killed in an accident at a local factory. The wife went crazy with grief and had painted nearly the entire interior of the house black. So that when grandma and grandpa moved in they had to work super hard to cover it all with white paint. I feel like some of mg experience in that house was just the remnants of the wife’s grief. I wonder if people still experience things there.

    I still believe in ghosts, and I am a witch. I feel like there are still many things in this world that have yet yo be explained and I am open to the possibilities.

    Do you believe in ghosts? Have you ever had a ghost encounter?

  • The State of My State

    The State of My State

    My life feels like a most delightful form of chaos currently.

    I am halfway into my first semester of my Grad school and I am already realizing that I may have made a mistake. My thought was to take my English degree and make it more practical by studying Communication – Social Media and Marketing and the truth is I don’t like it. Despite having worked in the banking business for 17 years I am not a very business minded person and I don’t love looking at people as commodities and creativity as something that can be swayed to be profitable. I am doing fine, but I am not happy. I am planning to contact my adviser to see what I can do. I will keep you posted on the outcome. I am hoping to maybe swing over to a English – Creative Writing. Fingers crossed.

    The Wenches of Myth, IWG 73, have made they’re debut in their first official year at the Ohio Renaissance Festival. We are having a great time. I even wrote a toast that I got to present during pub sing. I am meeting new people, making new connections, and generally having a really good time.

    I have lost 53 pounds so I am also able to wear some of my faire garb that I haven’t been able to in years. It feels fantastic. I am down to a size 14-16 and still working. My husband and I joined WW (weight watchers) in February and with diet alone have together lost about 108 pounds. He also looks amazing and we both feel so much healthier. Check out this this side by side of my face from January to August.

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    Beyond that my little sister is buying a house, my cousin is getting married, we have tickets to see Rasputina and David Sedaris in October. There is a lot going on, and a lot to look forward to. Tomorrow we are surprising my friend with a Duchess party. Pictures to come.

  • The Ghost in the Hall (Who may or may not watch you pee)

    I went to a pool party at a friends house yesterday, and it was the first time I had been to her home. A couple of us were standing around laughing and chatting and waiting for everyone to arrive when the woman who’s house it is, Robin, says, “Oh, I don’t know if you are sensistive to it, but this house is haunted.” Robin tells us that they have named the ghost carl, and that he appears to be wearing a trenchcoat and a fedora like Dick Tracy or a noir detective. Her son has seen him, and another friend of hers after using the bathroom came out and told her that it was just polite to warn guests that a ghost might be watching them pee. Robin said she laughed when her friend said this and gave the warning from then on. Her grandson can also see the ghost and will sometimes not want to go into the bathroom because Carl is in there. I peed a couple of times, but did not experience the ghostly peeping tom, possibly because we were drinking quite a bit.

    This brought up the question of whether we believe in ghosts. I am a believer in ghosts in a couple of different ways. One I believe that sometimes what happened in a location was so horrifying that it leaves an imprint of the high emotion that happened there ie: hospitals, asylums, prisons and crime scenes. I also in intelligent haunting, where a ghost has retained some piece of it’s personality and nature that can be communicated to the living. I do not pretend to know how that works, but I have experienced “ghosts” that were able to communicate.

    When I was a little girl we lived in this house in Heath, Ohio. It was a cute little ranch in a nice area, but I always had odd things happen to me. At night if the closet door was left open a “person” who looked like they were made of TV static would walk out of the closet and come to my bed. I would pull my cover over my head, and if I looked out the face would be right above my face just inches away. In this same house there were the white people in the basement who would call my name in the voice of my mom or grandma, and if they were not at home or hadn’t called me then I knew I should go play in the basement. When I would look down the stairs I would see three or four white faces peeking around the corner of the stairs at me.

    Many, many years later my mom would tall me that the previous owner of the house died tragically in an industrial accident. After his death his widow went insane in her grief and painted all of the walls and cabinets in the house black. When my grandparents moved in they had to paint everything back to white, which apparently wasn’t easy. I feel like a lot of the crazy things I experienced there were the manifestation of the widow’s grief and rage.

    I have been listening to a really fun paranormal podcast Ghosted with Roz Drezfalez where Roz, an LA based drag queen, brings on guests to tell their ghost stories and strange run-ins with the paranormal. Stand out episodes are Kyle Ayers, Selene Luna, David Oman, Rain Phoenix and Casandra Peterson (Elvira). Roz has his own fun and interesting tales and honestly the show is just delightful.

    I have not seen or heard a ghost since becoming an adult, but I can sometimes feel them. I honestly wish I had retained some of the sensitivity I had as a child. Can you see, hear, sense, smell or taste (Yep it is a thing) ghosts? Do you believe? Do you have a good ghost story?

  • For the Lovers the Dreamers and Me.

    For the Lovers the Dreamers and Me.

    My first “crushes” I can remember were Kermit the Frog and Disney’s Robin Hood (You know the super suave English cartoon fox.) Kermit to me was the funny, cool under pressure (generally), leader of the best band of misfits I could ever hope to encounter.I grew up watching Sesame Street and The Muppet Show, so my indoctrination into the cult of Henson started early. My first or second birthday cake was a big bird head that my mom made. There are pictures somewhere of me probably around the age of four laying on the floor in front of our families huge console TV watching Sesame Street. I was Miss Piggy for Halloween when I was 5 or so. Around this same time I was terrified for the first time by The Dark Crystal; the emperors death and subsequent collapse was the cuplrit, but the Skeksis were pretty scary regardless. 

    Somewhere around the age of five or six my mom brought home the movie that would change me, and that remains my all time favorite film to this day, Labyrinth. This story of a plucky, and sometimes bratty, teenage girl making an ill thought out wish and having to traverse a labyrinth to save her baby brother excited my senses in a way no movie ever had before. The visuals were lush, the songs were catchy and the movie introduced me to a performer I would love from that day forward, David Bowie. (Someday I will have to go into depth about that, but this post is about Jim Henson.)

    I can remember vividly when Jim Henson died. I remember the special episo that aired as a public memorial to this amazing creator who left the world far too soon, but far better than he found it. From Jim Henson I learned that it is okay to be different. That following your dreams can be hard, but it is worth it. I learned that imagination is too good a thing to waste. And that “life is like a movie, writer your own ending, keep believing, keep pretending.” I cried for the loss of Jim Henson at nine or ten years old, because I would never be able to meet him now. I would never have the chance to tell him how much I learned, and loved him and his creations.

    Today my husband and I made our way to Cosi where they are hosting, The Jim Henson Exhibition: Imagination Unlimited. We arrived this morning as the museum was opening, and made our way down the first floor corridor where we found on the left hand side a doorway ringed in hot pink fun fur. I think we were in the right place.  Walking in the walls were painted kermit green (which is the same color as my dining room if that tells you anything about me). There was a quote on the first wall that I think is going to be a tattoo, “As children, we all live in a world of imagination, of fantasy, and for some of us that world of make-believe continues into adulthood.”

    As you approached this wall there was a turn to the right and right there was Kermit, in front of a wall with a photo of Jim and Kermit. I actually almost missed Kermit entirely somehow because I was focused on the photos and stories about Jim when he was a child and a teenager. Seth said something about me not freaking out over my boy, and as I turned to ask him what he meant there was Kermit waving hello to everyone who enters, letting them know that this is a safe space. I was shocked by how thin his fingers were, and how easily you could see he was felt from this close, but how he had always been real to me.

    The exhibit is divided into several sections. You begin in his early life where interactive screens allow you to swipe through images from Jim’s sketchbooks. You get to see his inspirations for the Muppets, the beginnings of his puppetry, how he met his wife in a puppetry class, and many images and pieces from the early days of Muppets Inc. I sang along with clips from early shows using songs from the eras, watched videos of old commercials and TV appearances and marveled at how you can see the seed of what was to become even in these early works.

    You then moved to his experimental works from the sixties that include interactive art nightclubs, Oscar nominated short films, and subversive political pieces for TV. The nightclub concept reminded me of a current Columbus attraction called Otherworld. I have not been to Otherworld yet, but friends who have been love it and I feel like it is something Jim would have approved of.

    Next came Sesame Street, and this part honestly made me a little emotional. There we found Bert and Ernie, Count von Count, Smiley the Worm and Grover. They had an exhibit where you could build your own “Anything Muppet”, a term they used for blank muppets that could be built and rebuilt to suit a need. They had a video alongside this showing the many faces of the fat blue anything muppet. They showed the development of the show, and talked about how Jim was reticent to do a children’s show because he didn’t want to be pigeonholed.

    On a wall behind Grover was the gateway to the next section, The Muppet Show. In this section they had one of the original pitch letters by Jim, scooter and his design notes, many story boards, a replica of the opening number wall, Muppet show idea notes, Puppets of Jim, Frank Oz and Jerry Nelson, and so much more. Proceeding on you found the Muppet films, and Baby Piggy and Fozzie from The Muppets Take Manhattan. There are videos of the making of The Great Muppet Caper and The Muppet Movie, more storyboards and film posters.

    Immersive Worlds is the next exhibit and the first display is the costuming Jennifer Connelly (Sarah) and David Bowie (Jareth) wore in the Ballroom/ World Falls Down scene in Labyrinth. The detailing on these are stunning, and they are no less impressive seeing them in person. There are more pieces from labyrinth like props from Sarah’s bedroom, set designs and notebooks. Across from this is The Dark Crystal where they have Kira, Jen and Augra as well as notes, drawings by Brian Froud and props.

    The Fraggles are next with Red and Wembley as well as videos, notes, and Steve Whitmire’s Headset. Across from them is a wall about what came next. It tells how Jim died in 1990 at the age of 53. That he worked on things like the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles before he passed. They talked about Waldo, the first completely digital interactive puppet, the Storyteller, and the show Dinosaurs.

    At the very end was a wall that had a video being played on it. It had clips of Jim throughout the years with audio about how there is a little child in everyone. Then there is just multiple versions of the same clip of Jim wearing a headset and holding Kermit. He looks at the camera and says “Goodbye everyone. Goodbye.”

    Sometimes when I am sad, and need a really good cry to empty me out. I will go to youtube and find the video of Jim Henson’s memorial, and specifically to the moment when the puppeteers sing “One Person”. If you need a really good cry I seriously recommend this, but I had a similar feeling hearing Jim saying goodbye in the video. It felt so final, and while I know it is the case I have always felt that Jim was kind of living in all of us who loved and continue to love him.

    In the hallway outside the exhibit they had pieces from local artists inspired by Jim Henson. I took pictures of some of my favorites. I bought two things from the gift shop, the book Jim Henson by Brian Jay Jones and a Fraggle.

    All in all the exhibit is beautiful and if you have the chance to see it I highly recommend it. The exhibit runs at COSI through September.

     

     

     

  • Talk Derby to Me: First Bout of 2019

    Talk Derby to Me: First Bout of 2019

    I love Roller Derby. I love the action, the chaos and the roller skates. I love the fun names and the amazing athleticism. And while my personal roller girl dreams may have been thwarted I will always be ready to go out and support my local roller derby team.

    Saturday in the Ohio building at the Ohio State Fair Grounds Ohio Roller Derby All Stars and Gang Green took on Toronto Roller Derby in a double header bout. First bout was the All Stars versus the Toronto A Team. This bout was a roller coaster. The teams were very evenly matched and the lead kept moving between them. The absolute MVP for OHRD was Catch Mikatchu, a diminutive skater whose ability to pivot on a toe stop was masterful. Mikatchu could also push a trio of Toronto players several feet in order to find a way around them. Absolutely amazing, and lead to an OHRD victory for the first bout.

    Bout number two was not quite as close. The Toronto B Team’s defense was a little too much for Gang Green. It was obvious that the skaters for Gang Green were beginning to get frustrated which led to them committing a significant number of penalties. Toronto would take the win on that bout.

    The half time of both bouts was filled with exhibitions by the Columbus Saber Academy. Seth wants a light saber pike, and I don’t exactly blame him.

    For more on Ohio Roller Derby click here. For more on Toronto Roller Derby click here.  For more on  Flat Track Roller Derby click here.